yes, absolutely but ….
whose personality and which personality is best suited for you?
there is the wearer aka you .. and then there are the dresses and to further complicate things there are endless mind-boggling accessories …
so where do we begin in order to resolve or avoid a dresses related personality disorder …. ?
So many decisions and a myriad of dimensions as well ….
on the subjective personal side there are favorite colors to be considered
this is usually preconceived … thou the choices are not always best …
size is of course an unyielding parameter – you can’t wear what doesn’t fit you although some try …. call it wishful thinking taken a step too far …
there are thin women who would like to be thicker but many more thick women who would like to be thinner …. less is more
How often and where and when a dress is worn are additional decision making ingredients as well …
So wow! this subject is already taking on epic proportions … we are not talking dual personalities but multiple personalties that change based on space and time!
Where do we begin to sort out this complex decision making process? … on a psychiatrists couch perhaps?
First let’s take a macro view of this scenario and paint a new one …
Sit back and relax as you read this – it’s going to take some time.
Rise up way high above yourself in the sunny blue or pale gray sky and look down at yourself from the clouds surrounding you …
What do you see?
A dot on the ground that is you silly!
…. and what do you want to see if you don’t like the view? a closer view of yourself of course .. so let’s move down slowly until we can see something meaningful
Apparel and accessories like belts and hats and jewelry are all a part of a collage that you create when you cloth yourself.
But hair and skin as well as lips eyes ears and nose are even more important.
Standards have been set by conventional wisdom as to what appearances are appealing or attractive and which are not. That is an unfortunate human trait leading to much grief for many human beings.
So your dress is nothing simple to take lightly.
getting back to your hair – it should always be healthy and healthy looking – there are many ways to accomplish this but it is essential. What does this have to do with a dress? You will find out much later on as you read.
Sameness amongst we humans is prevalent as can be best illustrated by males who where suits white shirts and ties to distinguish themselves …. or in different nations have customary garbs that distinguish them from women but not necessarily from one another.
Less obvious are what females choose to wear – especially in America. In some nations women are still culturally restricted in many ways. Remnants of the cave human age.
There is an often unrealized imposed need placed on we humans to be the same because conformity is required by the apparatus that provides jobs which in turn help feed us humans. Okay but let’s stay away from economics and the psychology of civilization in this article … but it’s worth exploring in the future when we have the desire.
While we are still pondering our hair from up above and deciding how to improve it’s health and appearance let’s let our thoughts wander a little …
The dress you wear is often not the dress you want to wear – but what society imposes upon you (think job) …. AND in fact, in many cases what is best for you is not a dress ….
I think dresses are generally a plus for plus people and a minus for bean stalks or those who seek to emulate fashion models.
Note: what is fashionable is what looks good on you.
Back to the hair as we move lower and view our face and neck line.
One must always wear earrings and a necklace. This is not easy due to the variety and choices.
As with your hair, healthy facial features aka skin are extremely important.
Very little but the best organic lotions and potions should be used. Nothing obvious. For those who enjoy the use of color I warn the choices are so many that the chances of making a mistake are endless and highly likely.
Note: What looks good on others most often will not look good on you. If you choose to model yourself after someone you find attractive -be sure they have the same body shape and height. It also helps to remind yourself that your opinion may not jive with conventional wisdom.
Strive for natural radiance and invisible charisma as opposed to obvious shapes and colors when it comes to what lives above your shoulders.
Occasionally you can have a coming out party with shapes and colors and the visual impact will be more effective if it’s not same ‘ol same ‘ol
Yes, we are still talking about dress personality disorder … relax … it all fits. No pun intended!
As we resume our journey downward several areas of our body become apparent …
your breasts arms and waistline … and this is where the pedal hits the metal.
Many, many questions are raised and decisions must be made. Too many to discuss within the scope of this subject.
Generally speaking tight fitting is not a good thing and loose is … for both thick and thin peeps aka people and in this case female peeps.
For the sake of diplomacy let me suggest that looser is better than tighter and apparel should fit the counters of your body and in some cases reduce the attention given to contours both thick and thin.
A dress allows you to alter the appearance of shape and the contour for thick and think peeps. What you decide to emphasis speaks volumes about you personally.
So if you are a shouter or a whisperer try speaking normally … somewhere in the middle is a good place to be …. externally you can work on altering your body shape and morph yourself into something more normal … it is often a healthy thing to do as well.
But life is not perfection and neither are you imperfect because you don’t conform.
Normal is the new chic thing to be … since everyone subconsciously strives to live on the fringes to establish their individuality and to conform with conventional wisdom.
The intrinsic ingredients of dresses are fabric .. and that decision cannot be taken lightly.
A massive number of choices can be lopped off your list by simply deciding on fabric and color. Styles are most often not dependent on fabric and color.
I favor using accessories to determine style – since accessories can be infinitely changed and altered.
What we seek to achieve with the dress is a canvas on which you can paint your personality with accessories.
The goal here is to wear the same dress ten times and have it look like a new dress ten times!
Needless to say this isn’t easy and most will say impossible.
A small wardrobe can be stretched a long way however – reducing the possibility of errors while increasing your clothing allowance per dress.
Note: Quality trumps quantity.
From our perch above ourselves some of us will see the ground and some will find their contours block the view …
The goal is a loose fitting canvas on which you can paint your accessories whether thick or thin.
The choices are many and value scales are often tipped in favor of personal preferences.
However think solid over patterns and simple patterns over busy patterns.
Think light or dark … and avoid dull
Think contrast and brightness.
All of these thoughts can be altered with accessories.
Accessories are more finitely divided into categories based on body parts.
Earrings for the ears and belts for the waist.
Do large earrings hide your big ears or call attention to them … does a belt call attention to your ultra-thin waist? … and is that good or bad?
Note: always take a picture of yourself after you’ve made all your decisions – so that you can compare combinations and “looks”
Unfortunately be reminded that you may not make the desired impression the first time or sometimes ever depending on who you are trying to impress.
Some peeps just don’t care about what others look like. Smell? … maybe.
The smell of clean always trumps perfume .. and a slight hint of perfume trumps the olfactory noise of perfume.
If you are dealing with sweat …. you can stop reading this until you correct that problem yourself! Hint: don’t use air fresheners on your body.
Okay now let’s begin to visualize some of this –
plain dress / un-plain dress
large vs small accessories
… got your curiosity ..?
more to come soon …..